Everyone experiences emotional distress in different ways.
Not everyone who is having a difficult time will show outward signs, however, signs to look out for if you are worried about someone might include:
If someone you know is struggling to cope or having a difficult time, you might feel unsure of what to say or how to help. While checking in and asking if they are okay might seem like a difficult conversation to have, it could be a life-saving one. Letting someone know you care and have noticed a change in them is a great place to start. Approaching with an “I” statement can be helpful such as “I have noticed you seem really down at the moment”.
Sometimes events and experiences impact people in different ways too. What one person may find upsetting or difficult another may not. Some common life events or issues that people may find challenging to cope with include:
There are also signs that may be an indicator that you should ask a person if they are considering suicide. While these signs are not always present, and can sometimes be unrelated, you will do no harm by asking “Are you having thoughts of suicide?” if you do observe them, but you could save a life if you do ask:
Every one of us has the ability to be a support to another person. If you see signs that someone you know is struggling, you can be a great support to them by asking if they are OK and being willing to listen and get them to help if needed. Don't ever underestimate the power you have to connect with another person and help them find hope and stay safe if they are going through a difficult time.
If you think someone might be suicidal, ask them directly "Are you thinking about suicide?" Don’t be afraid to do this, it shows you care and will actually decrease their risk because it shows someone is willing to talk about it. Make sure you ask directly and unambiguously.
If they say 'yes', they are suicidal, listen to them and allow them to express how they are feeling. Don’t leave them alone. Stay with them or get someone else reliable to stay with them.
Get them appropriate help. Call a crisis line like Lifeline 13 11 14 or Triple Zero (000) if life is in danger. If you can get in straight away, visit a GP or psychologist. Offer to make the appointment and accompany them if it is their wish. Even if the danger is not immediate they may need longer-term support for the issues that led to them feeling this way.
Lifeline is proud to be part of the #YouCanTalk movement, a collaboration of suicide prevention and mental health service providers committed to empowering all Australians to have a conversation with a friend, family member, or work colleague they are concerned about. For a range of resources, visit:
It is important that you as a carer, are aware of your own emotional wellbeing in order to assist others. If you feel you are unable to help the person who needs support, it is important that you get them to someone reliable that they trust that can assist them, a GP, a Psychologist, or call Lifeline.
If you need support yourself, you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Carers Australia 1800 242 636 which offers short-term counselling, emotional and psychological support services for carers and their families in each state and territory.
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